I started blogging as a therapeutic means for offloading. I follow other bloggers; some who share my passions and some who I may never have connected with if it were not for the wonderful world wide web. I have laughed and cried reading and sharing in their journeys. Before blogging, I felt lost and alone in my thoughts and overwhelmed by isolation. These feelings, it dawns on me, could be brought about by a whole manner of life experiences, not just my circumstances. So, wow, there are millions of people world wide needing a place to be heard and wanting a way to connect with people who ‘get them’ and their plight.
Whether you know exactly how you want to come across or whether you know exactly who you want your audience to be or whether you intend to be funny, ironic, emotional, honest or any other creation of yourself and whether you are a realist or a fantasist and whether or not you are technomologically minded (yep that’s a word now); your blog, is your blog. Yes it is potentially ‘out there’ for all to see, but it is yours and nobody, so far as I know, has the right to tell you what the bloody hell to do with it. Man, if this is the only space in your life where this fact is true, than even more credence to you. Sure, we open ourselves up to comments and critique; but that in my book is a conversation starter and i’m all for communication!
I’ll keep this short. I refuse to name the media source that is getting so much publicity for slating the ‘slummy mummys’ blogs but I was overjoyed this morning to clock the revolution. I love a good healthy battle! #solidaitea … now I’m not pretending that I am ‘up’ on how to use hash tags nor how to link other people/blogs to this post… but… I am doing my bit, my way, to salute those that were knocked for doing what I consider to be an amazing job! Go you lot. What a great come back! (If I were in the least bit aware of how to copy the link to the facebook post I am referring to…it would be inserted here… anyone who does read this and wants to teach me…please do get in touch! Lol)
did that link work?!
As it happens, the slating of a fish finger tea amongst other things was the topic of my morning conversation with my 9 year old. Who…for the record…doesn’t even like fish fingers and as a rule, tends to have packed lunches for school… but guess what tomorrow is… it’s only a ruddy special school dinner day … this time the scam to get as many kids as possible to have school dinners on the day I assume the government takes some sort of stats and figures about how many children they feed hot school meals to, is beautifully entitled CORNISH FISHING INDUSTRY CELEBRATION LUNCH… otherwise known as fish fingers and chips! And of course my non fish finger eating poppet ‘needs’ to be in on this. I mean, who’d want to miss out on that!?
So fellow bloggers who rallied together to bring about that sense of #solidaritea, if our education settings can do it and call it a celebration nonetheless, perhaps certain media sources should spend less time attempting to bully and shame hardworking, life supports like yourselves and instead look at the real world that we live in!
Only yesterday, a day that allowed me to be a little braver than usual #PDAday, (a topic that I am passionate about because of my babybears disability), I connected with thousands of people quite unexpectedly. I’m new to this and it was overwhelming in a positive way to see that other people just like me, benefit from reading each others stories and just like me, have felt isolated and lost.
Long ago, I was told by a parenting whizz of a relative, that, a child could not be raised by its parents alone…it would take a whole village to raise a child. When your community is small (in our case because of exclusion/disability/judgements) then you need to reach out to a #virtualvillage for support. And when you do… it is AMAZING. Many of us are doing this already, it is that day and age where we connect with people who we may not have seen for months or years, we join social media groups online and communicate with people we have never met, we have access to a wealth of information online without ever having to ‘study’ as such and so we build our village, our network, our community. Sure it’s even better if you have the face to face kind too but even when we do, sometimes, unless they truly understand your plight/predicament it can be hard to connect properly and share honestly with them, and that is if you are successfully making enough time to be able to do so around whatever roles you are managing. So i’m all for expanding the #virtualvillage.
I met people yesterday who shared that they’d been so alone… we can all make a difference here. A ‘like’, a ‘comment’, a ‘tag’, a ‘share’.. it is so easy (ha…she says!) but in doing so, we let that other person know that they connected with us. We close the gap on isolation. We can welcome each other into our #virtualvillage .
Please do not be alone. Come and find me on facebook. I’m doing my best to work out how I keep that linked with my blog! https://www.facebook.com/mummagrizzlybear/
I’m certain, that there is a more official way to share these links but this is the only way I have sussed out… Some of my virtualvillage includes:
There are hundreds of people, pages and groups that contribute to my support network. However I am slow but learning and seriously must get on with the pile of paperwork I need to give my attention for my sons EHCP! Normal life must resume.